Confidence is most probably one of the most-heard words in day-to-day life. Almost every second person you know closely will lecture you regarding the significance of confidence in personality development. All the personality development classes have ‘confidence build-up’ as the first and foremost priority. It is as if confidence is the most indispensable part of anyone’s life. In fact, it is. Confidence doesn’t only mean believing in you. It also means, being able to let people know how strong you are from inside and how able you are in achieving something. The world needs to understand specific things about you in order to label you as successful. However emphatically one tries to say that the society doesn’t fix the criteria for a person to be called as successful or a failure, but the truth is that, it does. It is the society in which we live that makes conventions for us, which we might or might not be interested in following. But, in the end we always are crowned or dethroned by the society.
Hence, it’s very important to be able to present us with a glitter in our eyes and strength in our soul, which comes across people as ‘confidence’. It is this confidence which can take a person to the heights and in the condition of lack of which the same person falls down.
Marcus Gravey is so true when he remarks,
“With confidence, you have won before you have started.”
Confidence is undoubtedly one of the most demanded human qualities in the World. Without confidence, you can have almost anything, but never everything. Now, that we know how crucial confidence is, its very much essential for us to proceed to look into the ways to gain confidence.
Robert Kiyosaki has said,
“Confidence comes from discipline and training.”
This is of course one of the many ways to gain confidence in one’s life. It is often said that discipline is something everyone must try to follow in whatever they do. This is so because discipline grants you the freedom to be confident. Yes… confidence needs you to be free. If you aren’t free, you can never be confident of something. The fear of anything can take you down, but if you are sure that you can fly over the obstacles unhurt, you sure are going to succeed.
“Knowledge is confidence. And confidence lets you play fast.” – Bill Parcells
The above quote says it all. Knowledge about anything and everything gives you confidence to stand in front of the World. If you have knowledge, you don’t have to fear much. You can mostly be sure about things that you know and stand with confidence among others. In fact, knowledge is one indispensable part of confidence build-up. No knowledge means no backbone!
4. Facing your fears
“You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’” – Eleanor Roosevelt
It has been very rightly said that ‘fear’ is the greatest enemy of confidence, all others running far behind. When you fear something to the extent that you stop doing things you would have done otherwise, you begin to lose your confidence. Being fearless doesn’t mean not to be afraid of something. That, actually, isn’t possible since fear is and inevitable part of human nature. Yet, fear can be faced, defeated and torn apart into pieces and then the ultimate thing left is confidence on oneself.
“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage.” — Anaïs Nin
The courage to perform any action – that might otherwise be difficult to- brings a person the utmost confidence. If you gather the required courage to say what’s right and do what’s right for you and for everybody else, hopefully, then you are very few steps away from gaining confidence to perform that particular thing. In other words, confidence comes from the courage to undertake acts you are ‘normally’ not supposed to.
2. Believing in one’s goals
“They can do all because they think they can.” – Vergil
Yes!! This is of course, the biggest step to confidence. If you have faith in yourself and your passion then your confidence crosses all seas of impossibility. Firstly, a person should be certain of his aim and objectives. However, that aim or objective can be regarding anything from scoring good in a competitive exam to becoming what one wanted to become in their life. Secondly, the person should be more or less clear about the path to their goal so that they can be confident about reaching there.
“Confidence thrives on honesty, on honour, on the sacredness of obligations, on faithful protection, and on unselfish performance. Without them it cannot live.” – Franklin D. Roosevelt
It has been very well said that one of the most significant building blocks of gaining confidence is honesty towards whatever you do. Given a person is honest towards himself/herself and towards his/her work, he can never nervous about anything. Honesty matters the most in every walk of life. And better to say, honesty brings you ever-growing confidence. So, don’t ever abandon it.