“If a person’s basic state of mind is serene and calm, then it is possible for this inner peace to overwhelm a painful physical experience. On the other hand, if someone is suffering from depression, anxiety, or any form of emotional distress, then even if he or she happens to be enjoying physical comforts, he will not really be able to experience the happiness that these could bring.”
– Dalai Lama
What is meditation? Though it is a simple word but it still has a deep meaning to it. It is something that not only helps you to focus and concentrate but also keeps you happy. In today’s fast moving world we are so engrossed in our work and social life that we forget to take some time out for ourselves. We do not realize what we are missing until we lose it. But then, why do we lose it? What is the reason behind it? The answer is in front of you. It is because you are not happy and contented with yourself that you create negative vibes around you and end up messing things and relations.
Meditation is something that refers to a broad variety of practices that includes promoting relaxation and developing compassion, love, patience, generosity and the most important of all forgiveness. Meditation is something that connects you to yourself and also in some cases helps you find yourself. If we go back to the etymology of the word meditation, it simply means “to think, contemplate, devise, and ponder”. It is true that we face a lot of problems in life but by meditating it may be possible for us to see through those problems or at least have the courage and wisdom to face them.
Meditation isn’t something that can be forced upon by someone to you. It is something that comes from within you. You have to create the will or rather find the will to meditate. By meditating you not only are at peace but you also feel contended and calm. You feel that living life is easy and moreover you find serenity also in it.
Talking about meditation here is a short story that relates perfectly to this topic.
Mr. Sharma came storming through the door and wasn’t in a happy mood. His wife Mrs. Anjali Sharma saw his expressions and behavior and was worried for him. She approached him and asked him what was the issue that was troubling him and pleaded him to talk to her about it. He looked up towards her with a angry yet sorrowful face and tried to speak but could not utter any words from his mouth. He stammered but somehow managed to tell his wife about what had happened to him in his office. He told her that his boss in spite of his exceptional performance humiliated him in front of everyone and worst of all fired him saying that he could not cope up with his duties any longer and was a useless prick.
Saying this statement Mr. Sharma broke into tears and thought himself that why wasn’t he recognized for his work after putting in all such efforts and giving such time and dedication to his job? He felt hatred for his boss and started to wonder whether or not if he was a respectable person or no.
He shared his deep thoughts with his wife and asked her about whether she thought he was a respectable man or no? His wife comforted him by saying that he just needed to calm himself and stop cursing himself because of some others persons view towards him. She told him to do one thing that would make him feel better. She told him to forgive his boss for whatever he did to him rather than feeling hatred towards him.
Mr. Sharma gazed at his wife in complete astonishment and asked her again if she was serious in what she has just told him. Her wife did not say a word but just politely nodded in approval.
Mr. Sharma couldn’t understand what his wife was saying. He could not comprehend his wife’s thought.
He just walked up from there and went to his room without uttering any word. Feeling completely sad he just sat in his bed and switched on the television and started skipping through the channels. While doing so he came across a channel which interested him a bit. It was a channel that was explaining the importance of meditation in one’s life and how much can it affect a person. He thought to himself that he presently was in a very bad position so no harm would come to him if he were to try and meditate for some time.
He locked his room and sat on the floor in a cross legged position. He shut his eye lids and just sat there in silence. A few moments later tears started rolling down his cheeks. He started to feel more terrible about himself and got up in an instant and tried to forget about what all had happened.
He got out of his room for a glass of water, his wife by just seeing the look on his face asked him whether he was meditating. He told her that he thought it would help him feel better but instead he was feeling worse. His wife smiled back and told him that for good to come the bad must first be wiped off.
He understood what his wife was trying to say and then started to meditate on a daily basis. As the days passed, he started feeling better. He felt his heart and mind getting connected bit by bit. And then he finally understood what his wife had told him before about forgiving his boss.
Feeling enlightened and peaceful he stood up, thanked his wife and went out of the house. He went to the place where he used to work with a very nice and positive attitude. He looked around and saw that nothing had changed since he left. He then approached his boss’s cabin and greeted him with a smile. His boss was rather shocked to see him and even more because of the changed attitude of the person he once knew. Mr. Sharma told his boss that he forgave him and that he did not have any kind of hatred towards him. He wished him good health and then walked out from his cabin. His boss was completely out of words and did not know what to say or do. He felt terrible for what he had done and realized his mistake. He immediately ran out and offered back Mr. Sharma his job with the same dignity.
Mr. Sharma thanked the boss but then politely refused.
He said that it had never been about the job.
Meditating not only changes a person but it also changes the person’s perspective in life. It helps them see things more clearly and also understand them. They are able to relate things that hold meaning to them and also that resonate with them.
“A racing mind that reacts sensitively to little things indicates thinking that has lost its spiritual strength. Meditation restores that power.”