Yesterday while going through my stack of old books, I found “Who Will Cry When You Die”, a self-help book written by Robin Sharma who is a highly sought-after speaker, leadership coach and consultant to various organisations like Microsoft, Nike, KPMG etc. I bought this book long ago and vowed to follow each and every point that he has mentioned in the book to live my “life by choice rather than by chance, by design rather than by default”. But as time passed, I failed to follow those little things which matter the most in life. I then convinced myself to read it all over again and this time not to forget those points but to preach them every single day.
So, here I am sharing some of those wonderful insights which you should also try to practice in your daily life to lead a happy and stress free life.
- He started this book by quoting a quote of Norman Cousins – “The tragedy of life is not death, but what we let die inside of us while we live.” What he tried to explain further was that we all are born with a unique quality within us, a passion for something that we are afraid to chase and we let go of that passion by devoting our time being fully indulged in a work that doesn’t interest us much. Letting go of that passion will ultimately make us regret our decision later in life, when we will be lying on our deathbed wishing we could have been someone else if we would have followed our pursuits. Remember a dialogue from the film “3 Idiots”? Yes, you guess it right. Do what makes you happy and try to attain mastery in it.
- Try and get up early everyday. According to Robin, you should join the “FIVE O’ CLOCK CLUB” which basically means getting up every morning at 5 am and spending atleast one hour quietly by allowing yourself to re connect with your soul. Meditate or do the things which bring peace to your mind whether it is just walking slowly in the woods or listening to the soft soothing music for which you don’t get enough time in your daily busy schedule. Cultivating this habit will take time and efforts but once you get hold of it, you will feel glad that you did it. You will experience yourself the magic that waking up early does.
- BE UNORTHODOX. Do not ever let public opinion dictate your actions. Under social pressure, people tend to lose their own identity. Do not blindly follow the customs and if you feel that a change is needed in the society then don’t wait for someone else to bring that change. As Mahatma Gandhi once said “Be the change you wish to see in the world”. If you keep following the crowd, you will never be able to become a successful and an inspiring person. Take the road less traveled and always trust your instincts. Have enough self confidence to stand out from the crowd. Being different for all the right reasons is a wise way to live. Do not care what other people think of you.
- In this era of technology, we all have become tech savvy and most of the times we get indulge too much in all those gadgets, whether it’s is a mobile phone or a laptop, that we ignore our surroundings. While having a family meal time, people often don’t respect the value of eating together instead if their phone buzz in between, they run out to pick it up leaving behind their incomplete meal. I have even seen people who do same while meditating or reading a book. Picking up the ringing phone is another way to put off doing something you don’t really want to do. I know that it’s a habit hard to break but try to ignore your deep urgency of picking it up and let it go to voice mail.
- Genius is 99 percent inspiration. While talking about geniuses like Albert Einstein or Edison, we hear people say that they were god gifted. There is no such thing as being god gifted. They all were humans like us. The only difference between them and us is that they were driven by their passion and desire to enrich the lives of others. This desire became almost an obsession for most of them. Inspiration and hardwork is what you need in order to become a genius. Read self help books or study biographies of the people whom you admire to get motivation. Start spending time with people who are passionate about achieving their goals.
To conclude I would like to say that we have got only one life to live, don’t be afraid of taking chances and becoming a person you always wished to. Shed the shackles of small thinking and be brave enough to dream big. As George Bernard Shaw said, “The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for circumstances they want, and if they can’t find them, make them.”