I have always said that books should be an integral part of life. They have such a wide range of genres that they manage to cater to every single person’s needs. Well, in this article I am going to talk about The Fifty Shades of Grey. This is one book that has recently caught my eye. I have read the entire series 10-12 times. In the beginning, it shocked me. But, after a while, I just got used to the entire concept of bondage and whatever is a part of it. Here, I would like to point out that- no, I am not a freak. There are actually some things that we can learn from this book. So, here goes..
There has been a lot of speculation about the theme of the series. Erotic novels have not really been followed that much in our country. What is porn to the dudes is erotica to the females. Well, almost, I guess. In the book, the main character is Mr. Grey. He is a person who was subjected to BDSM relationship with an elderly woman and the root cause has been told to be his horrendous childhood, where he was left at the mercy of a pimp and his mother could not protect him. He felt that being in a BDSM relationship made him feel in control. Now, this aspect has been thoroughly criticized by a lot of people. A lot of psychologists are of the view that this is not possible. This sort of a mental condition is not conditioned. It is or it is not. Anyhow, here is a list of things that I think are worth learning..
1) The Flirty Emails
If you have read the book, I am sure the emailing is one of the things you must have loved. It was so witty and spontaneous. They actually made me smile. In the real world, people do not really care for emails. In India, writing a letter is considered to be romantic. If you have seen old bollywood movies where the guy sends a letter to the girl via a pidgeon, you will know what I am talking about. We should try to incorporate the good things that we learn from everything that we do. This should not remain curbed to reading books alone. Flirting is an art, specially via written words as they are permanent.
2) Better Technique 😉
Well, I have to say that the book is filled with intimacy. At one point, you just get sick of the intimacy and start skipping those pages. But, when you come to think of it, those scenes are so relevant for all the couples out their who want to spice up their lives. There is nothing wrong in fulfilling your partner’s fantasy. Appreciation for trying is a given. Though all this is not the deeper part of a relationship, it does make the relationship stronger.
3) Pay Heed To Your Sixth Sense
In the book, whenever Anastasia, the lead female, feels like something is going to go wrong, it happens. This happens in real life too. You ignore something that has been bothering you, thinking that it is not important and bam! it starts causing a problem again. Never ignore what you subconscious says. A lot of bad things can happen in this world. Please, pay heed to what you feel. This blankets the part where you judge people too. Go with your gut. Do not be over alert, but then, do not be dormant as well.
4) Men Can Change
Though this is a special case, but in real life too, I genuinely believe that men can change. They cannot go from being hipsters to wall street men. But yes, certain qualities can be inculcated. It takes time and the right woman. Thing is, you cannot force a man to change. You have to be someone for whom the man would want to change the person that he has been for so many years. But, reading the book made me feel that yes, men can change. Not completely. Never. But yes, to some extent. That, too, is a victory in itself.
5) Sweet Nothings Are Important
If you have read the book, you will know what I am talking about. They tell each they love each other, what they mean to each other- to this sickeningly sweet level that the readers, I am sure, have gone crazy. The problem today is that no one has time to say “I love you” before hanging up the phone. Everything has become so mechanical that it haunts the person that we are. A loving relationship requires both the people to know how the other person feels. It keeps the spark alive.
Well, that is it. I hope you guys found this interesting. I do recommend you read the book provided you like erotic novels for what they are. I agree that there are quite a lot of unacceptable flaws in the books, but they make a good read. Certain parts of it are really sweet and will make you smile. Some parts will irritate you as well. Even if you want to hate this book, I suggest you read it and then, hate on it.