Confidence, for me, is to do everything with effortlessness. Weather it’s a conversation or a public speech, being comfortable in our own skin is being confident. Confident people know who they are and they live integrity. It’s nothing but a state of mind. With a shift in the mindset, a shy person can easily become more confident. Sadly, many people today lack confidence. A lack of confidence is one of the reasons for their setbacks. But it’s really not that difficult to attain a high level of confidence. Yes, it takes effort. Yes, you’ll have to be patient. By following these simple instructions anyone can have the confidence of a rock star-
1. Just Decide to be confident
It’s no rocket science. Simply decide, ‘I am a confident person’. Just decide to feel confident for the whole day, no matter what comes your way. A single thought of ‘I can stay confident and happy today’ in the morning will set the base for you. This step simple involves filling your subconscious mind with thoughts of confidence.
2. Gain Momentum
Yes, ‘motion creates emotion’. So you need to get out of the house, switch off television, shut your Facebook accounts, and go out. Work out regularly. Start the goal you thought about days back. Take action! Positive action along with Positive thinking is the secret to all the success you need. So gain momentum and live your life by taking the required actions!
3. Have the body language of a rock star
Notice any confident person or a famous celebrity, the way they sit, talk, walk, or stand; they do it like a rock star. You can’t stand with a hunched shoulder or walk like an old man if you want be confident. When you walk, people should go like, “OMG who’s this boy/girl!” It’s the fundamental rule to have confidence- Have the body language of a rock star!
4. Eye contact
This one is really important. When you’re talking to someone, always maintain an eye contact. If you’re looking down or sideward, it depicts a vibe of diffidence from your personality. So, when you’re saying something important, make sure you look straight in the person’s eye. It’ll send a shiver down the other person’s eye and he/she will listen to you more carefully.
5. Talk to yourself
Before something important, stand in front of the mirror or find an alone place where you can have a conversation with yourself. Remind yourself of all the awesome traits that you have, remind yourself that you can do it, wait, you can kill it! Or maintain a journal and write down why you’re so awesome. List down your qualities. And write that you can be and do anything you want.
6. Feel Good
Most confident people are the happiest one around. As I said, confidence is all about feeling comfortable in our skins. And when you’re comfortable in your own skin, you’re happy! So decide to feel good all the time, confidence will follow. It’s no rocket science. When you feel good, you’re bound to be confident. Do something you love, hang out with a friend, have a laugh, spend time with your family. Indulge in things that make you feel good.
7. Look your best
When you look good, you automatically feel good. And that has nothing to do with being ugly or beautiful, everyone is beautiful in his/her own way. And you should try to look your absolute best. Not caring about how you look is one of the symptoms of depression. No wait, we’re talking about confidence. So look your best and feel your best!
8. Exercise regularly
Yes, maybe you’ve heard it a dozen times. But, I couldn’t afford to miss this one. As it’s said, ‘motion creates emotion’. Exercise is the best tool to witness it. The endorphins and serotonins will make you feel energized, rejuvenated, and confident. Work at least 5 days a week. Or do some outdoor activity. Play a sport maybe. This idea is to get your body in movement.
9. Hang out with great people
This doesn’t mean you should chuck off your friend who’s facing a tough time. Simply, expand your social circle. Stay more around people who have more confidence and are ambitious in life. Emotions are contagious. In no time, you’ll start feeling like the people you stay around. As its said, ‘If you’re the smartest person in the room, change the room’.
And remember what Norman Peale said, “Action is a great restorer and builder of confidence. Inaction is not only the result, but the cause, of fear. Perhaps the action you take will be successful; perhaps different action or adjustments will have to follow. But any action is better than no action at all.