The biggest difference between those who succeed and those who dream of doing so is failure. While the former know it’s an important component, the latter ones know how important a component it really is. Many successful people have quoted on it but a personal favorite will be from Michael Jordan, one of the best basket ball players the game has witnessed, who on the topic of failure has to say, ‘I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.’
Nothing speaks a success story better than failure. All the biggies have experienced it at least once simply because no one can make all his decisions right. You are bound to get it wrong once and rising from the state it leaves you in is what it wants you to learn. Failure is not just about missing the mark at the start; it’s about messing up any major decision. And while some people decide to give up hope and stop even trying, others prefer to get more determined and give it another go. The same guy Michael Jordan also says, ‘I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.’ So although it hurts to get something wrong, the important thing is learning what it has to teach rather than giving up.
Failure makes a person focus better, get determined and try harder. If a man fails in his passion, giving it up is the last thing that comes to his mind because failure is too small a reason to let go of the effort he put in. Instead, what he works on is how he can fight back that condition. Failure makes you stop and think how you need to proceed in your aim. It makes you think outside the box because when achieving your aim by simple methods fails, you are forced to think of some other way. And hence it gives you a time to stop and realize your mistake so that you can correct it and ultimately, achieve your aim. Failure inspires you to push your boundaries.
There are two types of lessons to be learnt from failure. One is learning from it, which includes the wrong decisions you made and how you could correct them. The other is learning it. It’s not a surprising thing to hear that someone committed suicide after failing at certain thing. Accepting your failure is not a big deal, it’s a huge one! You can begin to think about moving ahead only after you have moved on and you can move on only when you know how to accept your failure. Failing at something that you had been trying for a long time and put a lot of effort in does hurt but living in that failure is more damaging. Failing at small tasks teaches you to accept that failure and then failing at a bigger one just shows how courageous you are.
It also makes you mature. The more wrong decisions you make, the wiser you become (this does not mean making wrong decisions intentionally) because your past experiences form the base of new decisions you make. With every failure, you ensure you won’t make the same mistake again and hence be prepared better for a tough tomorrow. Failure helps you pick up important experience for the future, enabling you to see the situation from another possibility and then make a more informed decision with less chance of failure. It makes you trust your judgment and move forward at a faster pace with confidence. Failing at some point helps you succeed at some other.
There are many things worse than failure, committing suicide for one. The best thing about failure is that when it strikes you, it also gives you opportunity to strike back, that is, failure is never the end; there is always a way to get back up. The thing to learn is that no matter how big, it should never leave an impact on you. It should cause an impact because then you won’t take it seriously and not be able to learn anything from it and hence it would go to waste. It should be taken seriously so that it creates encouragement enough to try again. And you should also be able to move on. If it leaves an impact on you, you would fear taking risks and failing again. Failure is not as bad a thing as it sounds and rather than being feared, it should be celebrated as an opportunity to learn and grow. Failure has made many lives but taken many lives as well. It’s your willpower that decides which side you would be on. Just remember, it’s not impossible to outshine fear, it’s just hard but always worthy of a try.