9. Don’t Justify a Negative Emotion
First and foremost, you need to stop designating your negative behavior. Nothing should justify useless anger or worrying. No one but you yourself is responsible for your negative emotions. Do you want to be like the neurotic neighborhood shopkeeper who shouts and yells at people? I guess the answer’s no. So, stop justifying your negative emotions.
8. No excuses
Excuses show that evade responsibility and spill it on the situation. Articulating your anger or worry does no good, rather it makes you more vulnerable. Stop projecting yourself as a victim, rather take responsibility. No body likes a narcissistic complaining prick, take responsibility for your thoughts, actions and behaviors.
7. Take Responsibility
As you eliminate all excuses, begin taking some responsibility. This way you’ll take away power from negative emotions to where it belongs- to you. You are the master of your thoughts and actions. So, stop blaming other people for your actions and act like a responsible adult. Please.
6. Rise Above What others think
It’s your life, do you want to live it in terms of what others think of you? Apparently you should not. When you’re around neurotic people, ranting and gossiping is going to happen. So, instead of beating yourself up of what other people are talking about, ignore the gossips. Don’t enable anyone determine your image and worth. Do not define yourself based on others opinion. Rather set your beliefs and goals and keep moving forward.
5. Let go of the Bad habits
Some habits do no good to your spiritual and personal growth. They rather bring you down and disrupt your sound functioning. It goes for a bad company as well. Remember, nothing destroys your self esteem like negative people do. Life is too short to hang out with low lives and narcissists. If a beer or cigarette will pull you down, drop it right away.
4. Think before you act
If you’re in an angry mood and about to send someone a vicious text, stop. Stop right away and take deep breaths. Tell yourself about the possible consequences and if they don’t seem pleasant, don’t do it. It may be possible that the person you’re blaming has not doing anything wrong and it’s just what you think. It could put a long friendship in jeopardy. It could make some one cry. You might end up regretting it for days.
3. Practice Gratitude
Rather than constantly bickering over how difficult your life is, start being thankful for what you have. I bet there are tons of things and people in your life that you should be thankful for. Make a gratitude list before you sleep, life will never be the same. Gratitude is one of the key driver of happiness.
2. Eliminate ‘I can’t’ from your words
Remember that every time you say ‘I can’t’, the subconscious mind feeds and imbibes it. There are a lot of things which might just happen if we try. Just stop the thinking and start the doing. When you run towards your limits, your limits expand. When you say you can or you can’t, either way you’re right. So, remove ‘I can’t from your dictionary.
1. Let Go
The most important advice, Just freaking let go. Holding on to these emotions is nothing but plain toxic. Do you want to be the person who’s constantly annoyed and complaining. Holding on to the unnecessary emotions, you may end up that way. If not, just let go man. Let go.
“Work hard for what you want because it won’t come to you without a fight. You have to be strong and courageous and know that you can do anything you put your mind to. If somebody puts you down or criticizes you, just keep on believing in yourself and turn it into something positive”.- Leah Labelle