“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.”- Leo Buscaglia
When it comes to dealing people, most of us assume some wrong notions. We end up having a weird conversation, leaving no impact on the other person. In this dynamic business world, having great communication skills is a must. The first time we meet a person can determine our relationship with that person. In an instant, we can leave a positive impression. To enhance our communication skills, ‘How to win friends and influence people’ by Dale Carnegie can be of great use. The book has some really important ideas for us to have great relationships. Here is a list of 6 ways to make people like you.
1. Become Genuinely interested in people
Most people while having a conversation love to talk about themselves only. They love talking in terms of their interests, with hopes to impress the other person. Sadly, this never works. When we are talking to a person, it is important to become genuinely interested in the person. Talk in terms of his interest. Give him sincere appreciation. Ask him useful questions. This way, the other person become more and more interested to talk to you. He will always remember the conversation with you. So, the principle rule to make people like you is to become genuinely interested in people.
A simple yet very powerful gesture, a smile can lighten up any situation. While communicating, even a simple smile gives the person a message, ‘I am interested in talking to you because I like you’. An old Chinese proverb says, ‘A man without a smile should not open a shop’. So true. Today most we see, are tired and frustrated. Happiness is becoming more and more elusive. So, it is important to keep a conversation light and peaceful by sincerely smiling more often. It is the second rule to make people like you. Smile.
3. Remember a person’s name
A person’s name is the sweetest sound for him/her in the world. When you meet a person, make sure you remember his/her name. And then call him/her by name frequently. It gives the other person a feeling that you are interested in him/her. It makes them feel special. A person is more interested in her own than all the combined names on this planet. So, when call him/her by name, it makes them feel amazing. It is no rocket science, just remember a person’s name and call him/her by it, every time you meet.
4. Be a good listener
In a world where communication is the essence of relationships, listening is very important. Most people plan their response while the other person is speaking. They don’t listen to understand, they listen to respond. Be interested in the other person. Listen carefully when he speaks. Encourage people to talk about themselves. Give them a vibe that you care about them. Listening holds all the power. So, listen, understand and then respond. This simple rule will help you in establishing many successful relationships. To be listened by a person with genial and kind eyes is what most human beings crave for.
5. Talk in terms of their interest
This is one is very important. We love talking about things that interest and excite us. Well guess what? That goes for the other person as well. So, when you are talking to people, talking in terms of their interest will be a far better idea. Does the person you are talking to a cricket fan? Then, talk more about cricket. Does he likes to workout everyday? Talk to him about the benefits of working out daily. This way he will become more interested and thus you will make him person like you.
6. Make the other person feel important
Every person you meet has a story to tell. You can learn something from every person you meet. So, let them talk. Listen to them carefully. Smile more often. Understand what they are trying to say. Make them feel important. And please don’t do it to flatter the other person, do it because you genuinely care. Treat every one the same like you would like to be treated. It gives them a great vibe and makes them feel special. They will instantly find you likeable and endearing.
I’ll end it by writing a great quote by Dale Carnegie- “One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today”