A person goes through several emotions. Some are positive which make life easier, some are the opposites which consume energy like a parasite sucking blood. Heart is difficult to control and when it crosses the line and indulges in powerful negative emotions like- Jealousy, pessimism, anger, revenge and despair; there is no turning back.
“An eye for an eye will only make the whole world blind.”-Mahatma Gandhi
Revenge is another word for reciprocity with added conditions of hurt. When you are hurt, you seek to do the same to other person. You wish to erase the humiliation by inflicting physical or mental pain. Revenge stoops you down to the same level at which the person who hurt you stands. It brings you no good. You might believe payback will make things better, but in the end you are still left empty with no satisfaction. The wrongdoing cannot be undone but you can stop yourself from committing another wrongdoing. Revenge will make you feel even worse. You will be consumed with feelings of guilt and disappointment. Revenge is like burning yourself in order to harm other person.
It is never wise to seek or wish for another’s misfortune. If malice or envy were tangible and had a shape, it would be the shape of a boomerang. ~Charley Reese
It is a complex emotion which crops up from insecurity. Insecurity ranges from financial, emotional or social. When we focus more on other people`s life and start comparing, this is when the feeling starts coming up. We are more focused on other people. If your neighbor has a car, you want one too. You might be in a wonderful relation with a perfect guy, but as soon as your friend brings her boyfriend you start feeling less of your partner. You want all the qualities in your guy that the other person has. Comparison in life is good only till the point when it is positive. The moment you start wishing evil for the people who are better off, pause and stop because you are headed off the wrong road. Jealousy consumes your time and turns you into an insecure, pitiable and weak person.
“We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars.”
― Oscar Wilde, Lady Windermere’s Fan
If you always see the glass half empty, how will it make your life any better! Pessimism means anticipating the worst of any situation. Pessimism suppresses all your hopes and leaves you high and dry. A pessimist will never make an effort to improve the situation for he believes that no matter what the end result will always be bad. You will see thorns not the rose, the bad not the good, the criminals not the police, the devil and not the God. You will never enjoy a happy moment fearing that it will pass away quickly. Your philosophy is “why be happy, when we know the next moment something bad will happen” You always blame your surroundings. You think you have no control. This is where you are wrong!
Anger is an emotion we all have but rarely in control. Anger progresses from irritation to frustration and finally rage. Some people are short tempered and get irritated by petty remarks. All the cases of road rage are a result of short temper. Then there are those who are practical enough to assess the situation and control their anger. They will stay calm at first and release their anger through positive channels. For example if a person is angry at his boss for delaying his promotion, he will channelize his irritation into hard work. Mismanaged anger i.e. when the person is out of control is the most dangerous. The person loses control of his senses and the ability to think properly. His only motive is to hurt who so ever is in front of him.
“Anybody can become angry — that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way — that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy.”
There’s only one great evil in the world today. Despair.-Evelyn Waugh
Despair makes you lose the battle before you have even started. No matter how bad the situation is there is always a ray of hope. Despair is after effect of pessimism. We anticipate the worst and then we lose all our hopes. We accept defeat even before trying. As Charlie Chaplin said, “Despair is like narcotic. It lulls the mind into indifference” Despair is the most dangerous emotion because when we lose faith in ourselves we fall in the deep hole of darkness from where we can never come out.
These emotions will at first make you feel good, later you will realize you were wrong. Nothing good can come from bad. Right? These negative emotions are powerful but we are strong enough to tackle them. If there is jealousy, we have love. If there is despair, we have hope. IF there is revenge, there is forgiveness.